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Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Operation: Live-In

On Sunday night, we welcomed a wonderful young woman into our home and into our lives. Through a number of twists and turns, we believe God lead us to each other and are carefully pursuing the possibility that she will live with us at least through December to help our family through whatever is ahead. Some of you have been so generous to contribute to a help-fund for us, and many of you have been praying desperately for God to help us for some time now. "Miss M" is uniquely qualified having grown up in a large family herself, and I feel so I feel entirely thrilled that she's been able to jump in so quickly. But beyond her qualifications, her presence has been an immediate blessing...and as a bonus, she doesn't mind being puked on! (a prerequisite to join our family!)

To give you a little peak:
*Sunday night, we still didn't know if Elizabeth would need to be admitted, but had so much more peace as we went to sleep, knowing we had an extra set of hands if E spiked in the middle of the night and we had to take her in.

*Monday night, Elizabeth had insomnia and would sob every time I tried to leave her room, so I just brought up my pillows and slept on the floor, soon to be joined by a coughing Ruby. Both girls took turns needing me throughout the night, and it was so wonderful to be available to them, knowing that if Matt needed back-up downstairs with Ava, Miss M was available. I was able to mother them and nurture them without trying to juggle every single crisis in the house at that moment. I honestly didn't even mind that I wasn't sleeping! THAT is a miracle. :)

*This afternoon, I remembered at the last minute that I had a hospital appointment for Ava and had to rush out the door. Miss M was completely available, already engaged with the girls and able to carry on the day without the girls even blinking. In fact, I don't think they even realized I'd left!

*This evening, with Miss M.'s help to keep our "wanderers" from wandering off, we were able to bake together, enjoying mixing, stirring, pouring and tasting...what a blessing.

Are you breathing a huge sigh of relief with me?? I told Matt last night, "Honey, I feel like we might just be able to live a little!"

So thank you for helping make her presence in our lives a reality, through your gifts, your prayers and for your encouragement and validation every time I expressed the feeling that hiring help felt like a luxury. I feel like I'm getting a glimmer of what it will be like to enjoy my children, and not just manage them in and around crisis 100% of the time.

4 comments:

Christine said...

Yeah, I think we can go ahead and call "Miss M" a necessity, not a luxury. We're praising God for her!

Kimberly said...

So thankful! NOT a luxury at all.

danakevin said...

Sara and Matt-I do not know you, but I am close friends with Kim here in North Carolina and she has introduced us to your family and we have fallen in love. We too have 4 girls very close in age, but we do not have to healthy issues you guys are having to face. We too struggled with the idea of "help" and I have to say it was one of the best decisions we ever made. I had 4 under 4 and thought I was going to lose it. The help will allow you, like you said, to enjoy this stage. I struggled too with feeling like it was a luxury. I shifted my thinking and thought of it as a gift. The best gift in the world to enjoy your children, have time with your children, not feel strained to the ends by the situation that you and your family are facing. I am so proud and excited for you all that you have an extra set of hands. Miss M wil change so many things for you, but the best thing she will give you is the gift of enjoying your kids at this stage of the game. You will be able to live and you will be able to feel the joy again that you felt with just one or two kids. It was priceless for me. We pray for you guys all the time and want you to know what an encouragement you are to me as a mom and fellow believer. Keep your eyes pointing up and know that He has you in the palm of His hand- ALL THE TIME! God bless you all!!!

Sara said...

Christine & Kimberly, thanks for the encouragement. Dana...wow. What a blessing to hear your story. I thought about you today with all your little ones...and was reminded how thankful I am. Thanks for taking the time to comment!